How would you describe you current sex life?

a) A bit boring.
b) Out of this world.
c) What sex life?
d) Not bad considering how long we have been together.

How would you best describe your relationship with your partner?
a) Old Married couple.
b) Just fuck buddies.
c) Almost over.
d) The very best of friends

What is the main reason you want to swing?

a) Just for fun.
b) To find someone new.
c) I want a threesome.
d) To make you partner happy.

What do you hope to get out of swinging?

a) A better sex life.
b) To save our marriage or relationship.
c) A fun time for both of us and maybe some new friends.
d) A different partner.

In a foursome or moresome situation,
How will you feel watching your partner have sex with another person?

a) I'm not sure how my partner or I would feel.
b) I would be ok but I don't think my partner would enjoy it.
c) I think it would be ok providing the lights were turned off.
d) I think it would be a lot fun and a turn-on to watch each other
while we were all having sex.

2) How to find other swingers

Hopefully you did well in the quiz above and now its time to find a sexy, fun couple to play with.

The Internet has played a huge part in allowing Mr and Mrs normal to explore the swinging scene.
There are many Internet sites that are specifically designed for swingers to meet up. AdultMatchMaker (AMM) and RedHotPie (RHP) are two of the biggest and best Australian sites we have found.

Both sites offer free membership, so try one or both of them before you pay for membership and while setting up your profile be specific and honest with your content and photos or you could find yourselves being turned down when you meet up with other swingers.

Both sites have public and private photo galleries where you can add your photos. We recommend you put body shots ( no faces ) in the public gallery and face photos in the private gallery, this way you can have a profile whilst keeping it discreet.

Tip: Click on the "adam-n-eve" button below to see a copy of our AdultMatchMaker profile and this will give you an idea of what we think a profile should look like.

Tip: When contacting someone from these sites, if they can't or won't show you photos of themselves it is usually because they are hiding something scary. DON’T do blind dates as they only end badly.

3) First contact

Once you have found a couple that seems to suit you both, exchange a few messages and get a contact phone number.

When you speak to them, make sure you speak to both of them ( to confirm there is a male and a female ) and both of you should say "Hi" to them so they know you are a couple.

If the phone call is going well make some plans to meet up.

Tip: If you are going to meet another couple do it over coffee or a drink or at a place that you were going to be anyway. Never meet a couple for the first time over dinner as you could find yourselves spending a lot of time and money sitting across from someone that you don’t like or waiting for a couple that never show up.

4) First meeting

At the first meeting with the couple, if you think they are what you are looking for, let them know about any rules or boundaries you have,
( eg. We can't flirt with you here in public as we work in this area, condoms must always be used for sex, my wife does not like anal sex so please don’t go there, etc ) and ask them if they have any boundaries.

Tip: You and your partner should always respect the boundaries of others, if in turn you want yours respected.

5) The Green light

At this time if all is going well, give them the green light and say it out aloud.
( eg. We think you two are great and we seem to think along the same lines. We would luv to play with you, how do you feel about us? ).

If they feel the same way, let them know they should treat you and your partner with the same respect and in the same way they would treat their own partner ( or like a boyfriend or girlfriend ).

6) Always start together

When starting playtime, it is a good idea if you and your partner start play with each other. Your partner is the one that gets you hot and horny, so start with them, by doing this you are also making sure your partner is ready to play.

Making sure you are both ready to play is very important, if you are not, it can be the cause of quite a few problems. So we have made our own rule for this which may help you.

( eg: ONLY you can take your partners pants off for the purpose of having sex. )

It is a simple rule but very effective, and if this is done by you and your partner, at the same time it means no one has jumped ahead and your partner is not feeling left out.

Tip: Try to remember when swinging “Sex with others should always be as well as your partner never instead of your partner”

The "Tip" above is one of our philosophies and we have found it works very well for us.

7) Are you OK?

When playing you should check often to make sure that your partner is OK with everything that’s happening.

A simple but very effective way to do this is to smile at your partner. This will signal to them everything is OK with you and if they smile back you know everything is OK with them.

Do this often ( every time you catch their eye ) and if they don’t smile back you know there is something wrong and you should immediately make an excuse to remove your partner to another area and check to make sure they are OK.

8) Never take one for then team

Swinging is about both you and your partner having a fun time so if your partner does not like the other couple ( for any reason ), you should not try to talk them into playing. Remember this is about both of you having a good time. So never take one for the team.

9) The next day

If all went well you should be basking in the after glow of the fun and games you had the night before. Now is the time to talk to each other about what happened. Ask your partner if they where happy with everything that happened. Talk about all the good things and speak up if there was something you did not like.

Swinging is possibly the most FUN two couples can have together but like everything else in life there can sometimes be a few bumps when trying something new, So when you hit one of these bumps talk to each other and work out what caused the problem and remove it.

( eg: HER “I did not like that you were playing with her in the kitchen and left me in the bedroom with just him”.
HIM “I just went to get a drink and she came out and started sucking my dick, what was I supposed to do?”
HER “OK lets make a rule that we only play in the same room so this can't happen again” ).

You will find yourselves in situations that are unexpected and new. Sometimes its hard to know what is the right thing to do, talking to each other the next day and making your own rules up as you go will really assist you in stopping any problems from recurring.

Another one of our philosophies is "If you remove all the bad things, all you have left are the good things". Yes its really that easy!!

10) Swingers clubs

If you're not sure whether swinging is for you, then maybe a swingers/couples club is the answer.

First of all, lets get rid of the myth that your keys are thrown into a bowl. I am quite sure that at some venues this practice does happen but we have yet to see it.

Swingers clubs offer a safe place to meet and play. They are usually a "no obligation, no pressure" place for like-minded people to meet.

Like other clubs they have rules. The main rule being "No means No, all good swingers go by this rule whether at a club or at home with another couple.

Most clubs have good music, a dance floor with a striper pole, pool table, hot spa, and bedrooms to play in.

Some bedrooms have an "Open door policy" for all you exhibitionists out there and some you can close the door for a more private playtime. Some rooms have a theme ( eg: a dungeon with a stock and/or cross for those couples that like to play master and slave ).

Most clubs have different themes on Friday and Saturday nights ( eg: Friday night anyone can come, Saturday night is for couples and single girls only ).

So you can go to a club and have a look around, have a drink, a dance, a spa, a game pool, etc without removing any of your clothing or you can do all of the above naked. It’s all up to you.

Most male swingers are straight (heterosexual) but bi-sexuality amongst the women is common in clubs and the swinging community.

The reason for this is, almost everyone ( both males and females ) find two girls together a turn-on but only Bi or gay guys are turned on by two guys together and as most male swingers as straight, male on male is discouraged in clubs. It's just the clubs giving the majority of swingers what they want.

We have been to quite a few swingers clubs and had some really fun times, lately we have been going to a new swingers club on the Gold Coast, called "Utopia".

The couple that own and run Utopia, Darren and Renee, are just the nicest people and so are their staff. We highly recommend this club to any swingers whether they are seasoned swingers or newbie’s. For swingers clubs in your area check the local newspapers and the Internet.

If you have joined a connection site like (AMM) or RHP, try asking other swingers in one of the chat rooms, or ask other couples you have been messaging.

Just like everything else, there are good clubs and bad clubs and new clubs opening all the time. Try to visit a few of them as all swingers clubs are not equal.

NOTE: If you have been to a swingers club anywhere in Australia and have stories you would like to share with us and others please email them to us at: adameve@sextoys4you.com.au so they can be published at www.sextoys4you.com.au for others to see.

To see our review on the newest and possibly the best swingers club on the Gold Coast click here

Well that is our Top Ten, Hints and Tips for swingers. We hope you found something in them that tickled your fancy and we will sign off with one of our favourite sayings.

While its FUN keep doing it. If it stops being FUN stop doing it and do something else.

Take care all and stay sexy
love
Adam and Eve
xxx

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